Emotional atyachaar

I’ve always been lucky to have great friends and good personal relationships all my life. Thanks to all those who’ve put up with my mood swings, tantrums, emotionsz... I ponder as to Wut these emotions actually are??

We often hear people saying “Don’t Give Them Emotional Control Over You”. Some people are under the assumption that your emotions come from your thoughts. That would be wrong. It is a bit more involved than that. It’s not just what we think about or put our attention on that determines our emotions. Contrary to some current self-help philosophy, your emotions don’t come just from your thoughts. Ever listen to a comedian tell a tragic story in a funny way? Comedians can talk about their relationship breakups, economic collapse, and war, in a way that makes us laugh about it. They get us to think about tragedies and laugh with joyful emotions about them. There is obviously something more than thoughts or subject matter to creating emotions. Something in their point of view affects the emotions we create.

I’d begin with the obvious that people often overlook. You create your emotions. I say this is overlooked because people often say or think things like, “He makes me angry,” “That is sad,” or “He makes me cry.” Listen to this type of talk, and it sounds like other people and circumstances are creating your emotions. There is no mention of you being responsible for any part of the process. Believing these kinds of thoughts or comments causes us to overlook our role in creating emotions.
If someone is angry and scolds us we might feel fear or guilt. Fear and guilt are our reactions to them and their expression of anger. If they were making us feel emotions, we’d feel their anger. We don’t. We feel the emotions we create as a reaction to them. For the most part we generate our emotions, and then we feel them. There are emotions that we can feel that are not created by us, but this is a small percentage and best dealt with later. If you intend to change your emotional state, emotional reactions, and develop more happiness in your life, you will have to develop skills in changing point of view and recovering your faith from your false beliefs.

(I know what must be running through your mind after reading this….. yep!!… “Look whoz talking” ain’t it?? Like all of us know it is easier said than done ;) n eh wuz wrong in saying :))